In the darkness, he touched my arm and said, “Love you baby.” I did not move, just waited. The smell of him was strong. I heard the faint rustle of sheets and him moving closer and closer.
Then my eyes opened and I was wide awake – bringing me back to reality. Another long night ahead of me, with nobody and nothing in my bed except a pile of sheets.
I think to myself, “I'm all alone, I'm completely alone.” The person I once loved dearly is now my “ex.” I break into sobs so hard and tears flow as a veritable Lake Inferior of all the confusion and grief and longing.
Why are these recurring dreams troubling me now? Haven’t we been living separately for six months?
Well, I know I was at fault. I was the one who didn’t want to be together anymore. I was the one who didn’t want marriage.
Why did I do that? I’m 29 years old and I should have been happy that my boyfriend of eight years proposed.
At that time I didn’t want any of that – and now I want it real bad. How can I get my ex back now? How to make amends and make up with him?
“But I love him and I miss him!”
It’s not just me; I know many of you are in exactly the same situation, where you’re desperate to get back with your ex, whether it is your girlfriend or husband. You feel like a song bird whose wings have been brutally torn out and she is flying in utter darkness against the bars of its own cage.
Everything seems so hopeless….
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Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Im Still In Love With My Ex
If you find yourself saying, “I'm still in love with my ex” you aren't alone. There are many who find themselves at the end of a long term romance or marriage still clinging to hope that they might bring it back. Just because it seems like things are darkest and that there is no hope doesn't mean that there isn't any. There is still a chance that what you had can come back even stronger. When you are saying “I'm still in love with my ex” and you want to get that love back it is going to have to come back stronger if it is going to last.
For those of you saying, “I'm still in love with my ex” you may have a desire to turn back the clock and bring back what was lost. Be careful what you ask for, you might just get it and have the same results.
Look carefully at the mistakes that was made in the past and find out not only why they were made, but why they were able to have the impact on your relationship they did. You need to be able to make a stronger foundation than you had before. You are going to have to try and start from ground zero. To get back together with the one you love, you are going to have to try and start all over again. Just find a way to do it better. Tell yourself, "I'm still in love with my ex, but I want it to be better than before."
Try re-establishing a friendship. Take it slow. If your ex feels like you are trying to make things like they were, they may be resistant to it. Don't push things, just let things take their course. If the two of you are supposed to be together, it will happen. Just let it happen naturally.
Think positively about it. Don't let your ex see you crying or depressed about it. You want to try and make it look like you are a joy to come back to. If your ex sees that you are walking around depressed, they may decide that they don't want to have that in their lives. If they see that for you life has gone on and you are happy they may want to join you in your happiness.
Try to think of what type of person you would like to be with. Do you think that they would want to be with that type of person as well? People want to be with happy people who can brighten their day and make them smile. People want to be with someone who makes them feel that they have a purpose and that they aren't alone. Try to be someone that makes someone feel like that. Make your ex feel special by just being an encouraging friend.
If you make yourself valuable to your ex and are able to make them feel valuable you may have a chance to bring back lost love. You may also be making a foundation that will last forever. It is a good thing to say “I'm still in love with my ex.” It is an even better thing to try and make the foundation of that love stronger.
For those of you saying, “I'm still in love with my ex” you may have a desire to turn back the clock and bring back what was lost. Be careful what you ask for, you might just get it and have the same results.
Look carefully at the mistakes that was made in the past and find out not only why they were made, but why they were able to have the impact on your relationship they did. You need to be able to make a stronger foundation than you had before. You are going to have to try and start from ground zero. To get back together with the one you love, you are going to have to try and start all over again. Just find a way to do it better. Tell yourself, "I'm still in love with my ex, but I want it to be better than before."
Try re-establishing a friendship. Take it slow. If your ex feels like you are trying to make things like they were, they may be resistant to it. Don't push things, just let things take their course. If the two of you are supposed to be together, it will happen. Just let it happen naturally.
Think positively about it. Don't let your ex see you crying or depressed about it. You want to try and make it look like you are a joy to come back to. If your ex sees that you are walking around depressed, they may decide that they don't want to have that in their lives. If they see that for you life has gone on and you are happy they may want to join you in your happiness.
Try to think of what type of person you would like to be with. Do you think that they would want to be with that type of person as well? People want to be with happy people who can brighten their day and make them smile. People want to be with someone who makes them feel that they have a purpose and that they aren't alone. Try to be someone that makes someone feel like that. Make your ex feel special by just being an encouraging friend.
If you make yourself valuable to your ex and are able to make them feel valuable you may have a chance to bring back lost love. You may also be making a foundation that will last forever. It is a good thing to say “I'm still in love with my ex.” It is an even better thing to try and make the foundation of that love stronger.
Looking For Ways To Help You and Your Boyfriend Get Back Together?
You want to know how you and your boyfriend get back together. Why? Are you feeling lost without him? Are you feeling lonely without him? Are you that desperate to get him back? If you want you and your boyfriend to get back together, then you may need to change the way you think, the way you approach him and change the situation. If things went very fast and you were talking about marriage, he may have gotten scared off.
It could very well be that he felt smothered and didn't have enough space or didn't feel like he was in control of his future. It could also be that you are pressuring him too much about marriage and all he wants is a little space. Hopefully this is the case but if you have pushed him too much, it very well be that he is running away from you. If your wish is that you and your boyfriend get back together , you first need to be aware of the reason for him leaving in the first place.
Your boyfriend may be like many men who don’t want to give up their independence. Many men come to me and they say they do love their girlfriends, but don’t want to be tied down in a bonding such as a marriage. I know this doesn’t sound reasonable to women who think differently. We women thrive being in a relationship or are forever willing to be tied down together with the person we love. That gives us a sense of belonging a sense of sharing something beautiful. Well! Unfortunately we can’t change the way men think.
Men need their space from time to time. While the idea of marriage and commitment may have seemed appealing to them for a moment, reality could have set in and now they are feeling trapped. Men more often than not need to feel in charge. They need to feel in charge of not only themselves, but of situations.
If things start getting fast they don't feel so in control anymore. Once marriage or long term commitment starts getting discussed it is easy to feel that you are getting sucked into something if you don't feel ready. If they feel they aren't ready, they most likely aren't. If they feel like they are getting pushed down a road they don't think they want to go yet, they may push themselves away even from the person they love deeply. That’s the way they are made.
If he has pushed himself away and you really want you and your boyfriend get back together you are likely going to have to be secretive and sensitive about it. You will have to realize that you can’t force him. You want him to just walk with you and let him feel he is taking the lead. He needs to feel like he is choosing this direction.
Since there is no direction right now and you are dealing with a break up, now is actually a good time to get started back down that path. He may feel free and clear of you and to an extent. If he has any desire to talk with you and you are still on a friendly basis, just be available, but not too available. If he is going to call you, make it seem like you are hard to get on the phone. If he wants to make some plans with you, first turn him down gently but surely ask for a rain check. The goal is to make him seem like he is pursuing you. Let him be the hunter.
Also give him something to hunt for. Sometimes the things most desired are the things that are hard to get. Those will also be the things that makes them more likely to go in for the kill which is what you want him to do. Just don’t be rude or take things too far that he starts feeling you don’t want him. You have to be smart enough to make him understand you are approachable but you are busy with certain things. You want him to commit and if you make yourself someone worth hunting and let yourself be hunted and not necessarily caught, you may see you and your boyfriend get back together.
It could very well be that he felt smothered and didn't have enough space or didn't feel like he was in control of his future. It could also be that you are pressuring him too much about marriage and all he wants is a little space. Hopefully this is the case but if you have pushed him too much, it very well be that he is running away from you. If your wish is that you and your boyfriend get back together , you first need to be aware of the reason for him leaving in the first place.
Your boyfriend may be like many men who don’t want to give up their independence. Many men come to me and they say they do love their girlfriends, but don’t want to be tied down in a bonding such as a marriage. I know this doesn’t sound reasonable to women who think differently. We women thrive being in a relationship or are forever willing to be tied down together with the person we love. That gives us a sense of belonging a sense of sharing something beautiful. Well! Unfortunately we can’t change the way men think.
Men need their space from time to time. While the idea of marriage and commitment may have seemed appealing to them for a moment, reality could have set in and now they are feeling trapped. Men more often than not need to feel in charge. They need to feel in charge of not only themselves, but of situations.
If things start getting fast they don't feel so in control anymore. Once marriage or long term commitment starts getting discussed it is easy to feel that you are getting sucked into something if you don't feel ready. If they feel they aren't ready, they most likely aren't. If they feel like they are getting pushed down a road they don't think they want to go yet, they may push themselves away even from the person they love deeply. That’s the way they are made.
If he has pushed himself away and you really want you and your boyfriend get back together you are likely going to have to be secretive and sensitive about it. You will have to realize that you can’t force him. You want him to just walk with you and let him feel he is taking the lead. He needs to feel like he is choosing this direction.
Since there is no direction right now and you are dealing with a break up, now is actually a good time to get started back down that path. He may feel free and clear of you and to an extent. If he has any desire to talk with you and you are still on a friendly basis, just be available, but not too available. If he is going to call you, make it seem like you are hard to get on the phone. If he wants to make some plans with you, first turn him down gently but surely ask for a rain check. The goal is to make him seem like he is pursuing you. Let him be the hunter.
Also give him something to hunt for. Sometimes the things most desired are the things that are hard to get. Those will also be the things that makes them more likely to go in for the kill which is what you want him to do. Just don’t be rude or take things too far that he starts feeling you don’t want him. You have to be smart enough to make him understand you are approachable but you are busy with certain things. You want him to commit and if you make yourself someone worth hunting and let yourself be hunted and not necessarily caught, you may see you and your boyfriend get back together.
Friday, March 20, 2009
Trying Again To Get Back Together With Ex
So you want to get back together with ex? You are wanting to try it again? What makes you think that it is going to be any different this time than the last time? There may have been a point where you thought that things were going alright and everything was under control. Obviously it wasn't.
Something went wrong and either you were too late in reacting to correct the situation or you were just blind to the problems. Was it something that you did that caused it to fall apart or was it something both of you did? What was it that you could have done to change things? Did you know that things needed to be addressed but you never got around to it? These are only some of the questions you need to be asking if you want to get back together with ex and are sure you want to try it again.
There is a quote that many people throw around that many people attribute to Albert Einstein. “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” There is a lot of truth to this, especially when there is a marriage or relationship that is needing to be rebuilt and they want to get back together with ex.
Many people will go into a reconciliation effort but will go in pretending that nothing happened. They will go in and try to pick up where they left off but that is exactly what they end up doing. If the marriage ended because of some problem that one or the both of you didn't address then it will probably end the same way.
Whatever problems you had prior to breaking up, you better work to get them fixed before you work to get back together with your ex. If there was something that you had a problem with then fix it. Get counseling or therapy if you need to but, no matter what, address your own situations first.
If it is the other person in the relationship who had some issues that caused the relationship to end. Make sure that they have taken credible steps to fix the issues. When you are wanting to get back together and they haven't done anything to fix things on their end then you will be dealing with it all over again.
If the two of you had issues together that tore you apart, get some relationship counseling to try and work things out and get back together with ex. Don't try to jump back into things when you will likely only be trying to jump back out again. Don't try getting back together if you are going to run into the same problems again.
Why is it that you are trying to get back together with ex? If it is because you really love each other and you want to be together forever, then try to get things fixed before you start messing things up again. If you don't address situations that tore you apart the first time it is likely that you are just going to be causing a cycle of pain and your broken heart.
If you think that you want to get back together with ex, save yourself from future heartbreak and fix the issues before they end your relationship forever.
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
How To Get My Girlfriend Back? I Still Love Her!
This is exactly what men who ended the relationship from their side feel, when they realize they’ve made the wrong decision. I’m glad you’re asking this question, “how to get my girlfriend back?”
Now that you know this breakup was wrong and realize that what you had was the most beautiful thing of your life, it’s terrible for you.
Don’t fret, if what you had was wonderful for both of you, then your question, “how to get my girlfriend back,” has answers – several of them.
There are ways you can show her how much she means to you and how much you love your girlfriend.
Open communication channels
First thing to do is to try and open some sort of communication channels where you can talk to her just as a friend. You can make a call or even send her a message asking to talk to her. If she says “yes,” then you succeeded in taking the first step. If not, give her a few days and then try and meet her somewhere where you now she will be. Make it look like a coincidence and then ask her that all you want to do is talk to her as a friend. If she says she needs time, then you will just have to give it to her and wait.
Don’t show desperation
If you show desperation that will only get you on the wrong side of things and you certainly don’t want to go wrong. Learn to be patient. You are the one who let her go, now you have to do whatever it takes to get your girlfriend back, including waiting.
Stay away for a few days
If she asked you for time or didn’t show interest in talking to you, then stay away and don’t contact her for a few days. Wait and see if she gets in touch with you. Now that you’ve made your intentions clear, if she feels like you do, make no mistake, she will call or get in touch.
Don’t ask her to come back
Now, that sounds odd, but believe me, you have to take it slow. If she contacts you, don’t make the mistake of asking her to come back. Just talk to her generally and of course let her know that you are glad she called. Ask her welfare and sound caring, without sounding desperate.
Don’t proclaim your love
Don’t use the word “love” at all. Just be a friend to her and you will soon see the way she starts respecting you again and she will slowly gain trust in you.
The first step to your asking, “how to get my girlfriend back,” is to gain her trust and be a friend. Even if she talks nicely and closely, refrain from being hasty. This way you have a better chance of getting back together sooner. You will then learn to be patient and never ever have to ask “how to get my girlfriend back.”
Learn from your mistakes and lead a happy life with the person you love the most. Nothing is worth losing the most important thing in your life.
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
My Boyfriend Dumped Me - Picking Myself Back Up
“I feel like dying because my boyfriend dumped me!” It isn't the end of the world and it isn't even close. Even though it hurts, it isn't going to kill you. This is something that you can and will get over. It will take some work, some help, some readjusting in the way you think, and some time. Be sure that just because you are upset that “my boyfriend dumped me” doesn't mean that life stops, life goes on. Be ready for it.
Getting past the idea that “my boyfriend dumped me” isn't going to be easy but it also isn't going to be impossible. You are going to have to pick yourself up and dust yourself off and move along. The alternative means that you will be stuck wallowing in your own misery. If that is no life that you want to have then do what it takes to get out of it. It takes work to climb back out of the pit but the work is worth it.
Don't be afraid to ask for help but be careful where it is that you ask for it. If you are battling depression because of it, seek professional help. This doesn't mean that you are going crazy, depression is something that many people deal with so don't worry about people judging you. Do try to beat it, though.
It may be, though, that you have good friends or family that can help you out while you are trying to deal with that fact that “my boyfriend dumped me.” Be careful to not lay too much on these people, though, and when you ask for advice, follow it. If you are constantly complaining about your life and the situation but aren't following up on what advice is given, they are going to reach a point that you don't want. They are going to get tired of you and cut you off or seriously consider it.
You should also re-frame the way you look at the situation. Try looking at it from a different angle or perspective. While you may see it as the end of the world, from another person's perspective, it may not be. Try to find that other person's perspective. Try to see what good it is that you have to offer someone. What are your best qualities? For sure there is going to be someone out there who will appreciate them. Wait for them to come along.
While you are waiting, find some way to improve yourself. Find something that you have long dreamed about doing and throw your life into it. If there is something non-romantic that you have longed to achieve in life, pursue it. Do you want to make yourself better in anyway, now is the time to do it. Try to find someway to use this time and that negative energy you have and do something positive with it.
The end result will be a happier you. Once you have found that happiness, it will become magnetic and draw in the person that you dream of, the one that makes you smile and makes you feel like you belong. It will make you look back on this dark time in your life when you were crying because “my boyfriend dumped me” and see it as one of the best things that ever happened to you.
How To Win Ex Girlfriend Back FOREVER
If you are serious about wanting to know how to win ex girlfriend back, you are probably looking to know hoiw to win your ex-girlfriend back forever. You have gone through the pain of separation and you don’t want to go through it ever again.
Mistakes do happen but now it’s time to step back and evaluate the situation and what went wrong. Only then will you know where to go from here. Learning how to win ex girlfriend back may mean that you have to change the way you do things. You have to approach this in a manner that will keep you together FOREVER.
Fouled Up
Sometimes in life, it becomes essential to admit when we are wrong. Only when we admit that our mistakes cost us our relationship, can we make amends. You have to bring yourself to own up to your mistakes. They were your mistakes, not anyone else’s. Admit it. This is the only way to begin if you want to know how to win ex girlfriend back.
Look at yourself
Look at yourself objectively. Take a good long look at what you are and who you are, what was it about you that this had to happen to your relationship? Were your mistakes a symptom of bigger problems you have? If it was, then you will have to find out what it was. Look at the big picture.
Regret what happened
You may have friends or family advising you never to regret about what has happened. But that’s a completely wrong advice. If you have made a mistake that hurt someone else, you should have the feelings of regret. Once the source of destruction (your mistakes) has been identified, then time to see what you can do to let them not happen again. If the person who suffered because of your mistakes is the person you love, you should feel worse about it.
Evaluation of the situation
First, assess the damage. One of the things people have to do when trying to rebuild a relationship that was destroyed is to find out what happened. Once you identify the root of the problem, then time to see how to counter it and see if there is anything that can be saved. Is there enough left to build back? Hopefully, if you’ve built a strong foundation earlier, the roots are strong and the damage can be rectified. You will have to look at it this way if you want to know how to win ex girlfriend back.
Verify if you have a chance
You may be totally dedicated to get things back to normal by resolving issues but your ex girlfriend may not be. It is not possible to win back your ex if they have no desire to do so. If they have moved on, there most probably is nothing you can do about it. It hurts, but this is the fact of life. This shows that your mistakes have had very bad consequences and resulted in you losing your girlfriend. This should make you change things about you, so that in future you don’t face problems.
Dialogue
It is important to engage in dialogue. If your ex girlfriend is willing to talk things over, then great, go ahead. Since it was your mistake, you may have to endure her ranting or whatever it is she has to say. Don’t get irritated, try and understand that she has been hurt. Don’t get defensive about it. Even if you’ve realized your mistakes, hearing them out should make you want to change these things for good.
Respect
It is important to respect what she has to say. Understand and respect her feelings, respect her wishes and treat her with respect.
I agree, it may be tough to do, but if you really want to know how to win ex girlfriend back forever, you will have to take all this and be completely receptive to what she has to say. Do this with your whole heart and see how beautiful things can be.
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