Win Back Lost Love

A break-up can be traumatic; especially, if you love the person. People who break-up look at two options – get over the person or win back lost love.

The fact remains that both are not easy. You should sit down and think what it is you want. You should think hard about your relationship before making any hasty decisions. You've suffered enough. Think practically about the reason for breaking up and how things are going to be if you are alone, and how they are going to be if you got back together.

After unbiased assessment of the whole situation, you may end up deciding that the break-up was a good thing.

However, if you decide that there is something in your relationship and you were partly at fault for the situation, and you would love to win back lost love, the first thing to do is offer an apology.
You must remember, if you have done this before and your ex thinks that you are apologizing only to stop a break-up, he or she may not consider it sincere.

If you are sure it has been your fault, there is no harm in apologizing again. The fact is that if you have already separated, your partner will probably understand that you have realized your mistake and you mean it when you apologize. (Make sure you really mean it from your heart).

If it is your partner who was at fault, if you are keen on getting back together, then don’t wait for them to apologize – just forgive them. I know how some things hurt deep and are not easy to forget. For example, if your partner has cheated on you, it is difficult to forget such things. But if you love each other, you must forgive. Forgiving is very hard for some of us, but in many relationships, an apology made all the difference and helped resolve relationship problems.

If you win back lost love, there is every chance that these issues will crop up again down the line, may be about 5 or 6 months or even an year later. This is where problems begin to crop up if you really haven’t forgiven your partner in the first case. This is the reason, I’m stressing on you being totally sincere in what you do. If you don’t find it in your heart to forgive, then don’t rush into getting back – give it time.

On the other hand if you have really forgiven the person, then the past remains the past.

To win back lost love, you must also show your partner the “you” they initially fell in love with, not the person that has been dumped. The reason your partner loved you is because of qualities; such as generosity, thoughtfulness, understanding, caring – certainly not your jealous, hurt, angry self. I know it’s easy to say these things when they are horribly difficult to put into practice. But let me tell you, there are many couples who have overcome the worst of the problems by practicing these things.

Concentrate on being the actual “you” for some time and you will actually start behaving like yourself and your partner will find the old you again.