Looking For Ways To Help You and Your Boyfriend Get Back Together?

You want to know how you and your boyfriend get back together. Why? Are you feeling lost without him? Are you feeling lonely without him? Are you that desperate to get him back? If you want you and your boyfriend to get back together, then you may need to change the way you think, the way you approach him and change the situation. If things went very fast and you were talking about marriage, he may have gotten scared off.

It could very well be that he felt smothered and didn't have enough space or didn't feel like he was in control of his future. It could also be that you are pressuring him too much about marriage and all he wants is a little space. Hopefully this is the case but if you have pushed him too much, it very well be that he is running away from you. If your wish is that you and your boyfriend get back together , you first need to be aware of the reason for him leaving in the first place.

Your boyfriend may be like many men who don’t want to give up their independence. Many men come to me and they say they do love their girlfriends, but don’t want to be tied down in a bonding such as a marriage. I know this doesn’t sound reasonable to women who think differently. We women thrive being in a relationship or are forever willing to be tied down together with the person we love. That gives us a sense of belonging a sense of sharing something beautiful. Well! Unfortunately we can’t change the way men think.
Men need their space from time to time. While the idea of marriage and commitment may have seemed appealing to them for a moment, reality could have set in and now they are feeling trapped. Men more often than not need to feel in charge. They need to feel in charge of not only themselves, but of situations.

If things start getting fast they don't feel so in control anymore. Once marriage or long term commitment starts getting discussed it is easy to feel that you are getting sucked into something if you don't feel ready. If they feel they aren't ready, they most likely aren't. If they feel like they are getting pushed down a road they don't think they want to go yet, they may push themselves away even from the person they love deeply. That’s the way they are made.

If he has pushed himself away and you really want you and your boyfriend get back together you are likely going to have to be secretive and sensitive about it. You will have to realize that you can’t force him. You want him to just walk with you and let him feel he is taking the lead. He needs to feel like he is choosing this direction.

Since there is no direction right now and you are dealing with a break up, now is actually a good time to get started back down that path. He may feel free and clear of you and to an extent. If he has any desire to talk with you and you are still on a friendly basis, just be available, but not too available. If he is going to call you, make it seem like you are hard to get on the phone. If he wants to make some plans with you, first turn him down gently but surely ask for a rain check. The goal is to make him seem like he is pursuing you. Let him be the hunter.

Also give him something to hunt for. Sometimes the things most desired are the things that are hard to get. Those will also be the things that makes them more likely to go in for the kill which is what you want him to do. Just don’t be rude or take things too far that he starts feeling you don’t want him. You have to be smart enough to make him understand you are approachable but you are busy with certain things. You want him to commit and if you make yourself someone worth hunting and let yourself be hunted and not necessarily caught, you may see you and your boyfriend get back together.