Planning To Get Back With Ex?

You would have tried many ways to get back with ex and finally succeeded. Make the most of the second chance. Take it slow when getting back with ex. When you actually went ahead and broke up, there would have been ego bruises and wounded hearts. Although, understandably, you would be thrilled at getting back together, it is important to not act as if nothing ever happened.

In an attempt to make it all fine again and be happy, most couples behave as if nothing has gone wrong. You have to make sure the differences are sorted out first so that they don’t crop up in the future. Breaking up and making up easily, means a continued troubled relationship.

The magic of making up lies in giving it time! Building a renewed relationship takes commitment, understanding and patience. You must give yourself time to heal from the hurt of the break-up and rebuild trust in the relationship.

Consider the reason for breaking up

There is no point in getting back together with ex if things are going to remain the same as before. You must seriously go back in time and look at things that led to this drift. You must make a practical and firm assessment of the whole situation.

Here are a few questions you may want to ask yourself:

· What were the pressures in your relationship?
· What measures are you taking to ensure these pressures don’t build up again?
· In what way were you responsible for the break-up?
· How are you going to avoid the same mistakes?
· Is your partner also working on making the relationship work?
· Have you and your partner discussed about working out things and resolving all the issues?

You will have to sit with your ex and discuss what went wrong and determine how to make your relationship better. If you find it difficult working things out by yourselves, do not hesitate to talk to a counselor. Couple counseling helps you iron out the differences and get back into a happy relationship.

Make sure you take action to better your relationship

After going through the pain of separation once, you sure would not wish to waste the second opportunity you have been given. Now answer these:

· Do you genuinely love and respect your partner?
· What can you do to express your love and show your appreciation in a better manner?
· How can you understand your partner’s needs better?
· Am I spending enough time with my partner?
· How to open up better communication channels with my partner?
· How can we do things together?
· Am I too rigid? If so, how can I be more flexible in my thinking?

Getting back with ex is great and you long for things to get back to how they were in the initial days, but remember that it takes a tremendous effort and patience and more than anything, it takes a deep understanding of your partner’s needs to make this work a second time.

But it will happen as it has to many couples that broke up and got back together – to lead happier lives.