Techniques That Will Not Help You Get Back With Your Ex

I know, you must be wondering why we are going in reverse gear. But you need to understand what not to do to save a relationship.

Many a time, people who break-up are confused and do things that only make the situation worse than it already is.

If you are suffering from a break-up, you are in pain emotionally and you are perhaps desperate too. This leads your thinking in the wrong direction.

If the goal is to get back with your ex, then I repeat, don’t try the following:

I’ve changed - You plead with your ex saying that you’ve changed. You say you’re never going to look at another man. You promise you’re never going to lie anymore. You say that you’re going to leave your job and stay at home. This kind of reassurance does not work.

I love you - Now you start telling how much you love them. In order to make sure they get the point, you keep repeating yourself, day in and day out. Stop it!

Arguing – You are desperate to get your ex back, and in this frustration you start reasoning, trying to make them think different or act different. Your intention is to make them realize that what they have done is wrong. This is not going to work.

Learn to agree…..

Remember that if you start pointing out mistakes, they end up making more; but if you talk about things they have done right, they make less mistakes.

Let me tell you, this is magic and works wonders.

If your ex says, “We need to move on.”
You will have to say, “I understand.”

You may think that means you are also looking forward to moving on, but what ‘s actually happening is, you’re trying to see what went wrong. Your partner may have broken up because of the disagreements between you both.

If you are the type of person who thinks that just because you are married or in a relationship, your partner should love you, you are so very wrong. Just get rid of that kind of attitude right away. It’s only then, will you be able to see your partner’s true feelings for you.

Usually in a relationship, both partners end up feeling they are correct. Just turn things around and see. Whether it is your ex or your current partner, if you try showing them that you understand their feelings too, you will see the change in their attitude.

Pessimism – Most of us are pessimistic when faced with difficult situations. The minute you leave pessimism behind, you will start seeing things clearly.

Now that you know what you’re not supposed to do, do what you have to and enjoy the magic of making up.